Ways of TalkingBy Ha Jin
We used to like talking about grief
Our journals and letters were packed
with losses, complaints, and sorrows.
Even if there was no grief
we wouldn’t stop lamenting
as though longing for the charm
of a distressed face.
Then we couldn’t help expressing grief
So many things descended without warning:
labor wasted, loves lost, houses gone,
marriages broken, friends estranged,
ambitions worn away by immediate needs.
Words lined up in our throats
for a good whining.
Grief seemed like an endless river—
the only immortal flow of life.
After losing a land and then giving up a tongue,
we stopped talking of grief
Smiles began to brighten our faces.
We laugh a lot, at our own mess.
Things become beautiful,
even hailstones in the strawberry fields.
Well this poem is, in my view, speaks a very nice message. One that I try to follow as well. The message being, Life is crap, but so what? You're still here, you're still living, so live. Life can bring on a river of bad things and that torrent can seem overwhelming. But we're human, we're resilient, we're here, and we can't let the bad things run our life. We can still laugh, we can still sing, we can still learn, we can still love, we can live. Nothing is permanent, but it's still there. You still had it. So enjoy it, reminisce about it. Where he talks about losing friends, family, loves, possessions, and he still goes on. Every thing that he mentions can hurt you greatly, but you can still go on! Don't act like there nothing else in the world. That you lost anything that could ever hold a place in your heart. There's a whole world of possible replacements. Sure they'll never be the same but nothing ever is. Life can be tough so pick yourself up and keep going every time. This poem shows a little deviation towards the end from my views when it mentions the hailstones in the strawberry fields. I believe in relaxation, not obliviousness, still notice the world around you. Just don't let it get to.